Songs for Transitioning' has been designed to produce a unique piece of art – a song that captures the uniqueness and essence of the person it is written for and about. It has the power to support the transitioning of a dying loved one and their family and friends. It has the power to heal, uplift spirits, and help everyone involved work through the stages of grief.
This first iteration, of the service, has been designed specifically for my local Thames Community so we can iron out any kinks and understand what it actually takes to provide. In time, I, and I suspect a team, will begin designing this service for other communities around Aotearoa New Zealand and even more broadly, the world.
However, if you live outside of Thames and would like to try it out for yourself and a dying loved one, please contact me. We can do the initial step, the Conversation, online with family and friends. While it is more powerful energetically to do in-person, family and friends often live all over the place these days, so doing it online is frequently the only option.
At the end of 2024, Carol Sanford, a leading light in applying living systems thinking to the life of businesses and organizations across the world, passed away, or as some of us called it, 'transitioned.' It's hard to believe such a wonderfully caring and brilliant mind could just disappear overnight. She knew she would soon be forgotten and needed to be, so that those in her community could get on with their own work. Without this, the School she had contributed to for over 50 years would not regenerate.
So, as she was dying, Carol invited people to bring consciousness to the process. When she passed, she had designed a ritual that lasted over 49 days to support not just her transition but also the community's transition for continuing life without her. My experience of participating in this ritual was profoundly transforming, and I began to shift from the idea that when we die, that's it, to considering the possibility of something continuing on. 'Songs for Transitioning' has emerged from this reflection.
I use AI to curate each song, which has made a service like this possible without the expense and time constraints. If you were to ask a musician to create a similar song, they would most likely go through a process similar to what's outlined below. The main differences would be the cost, the style of musical arrangement, they might (though not always) play an instrument themselves and the time it takes to produce (months vs 1-2 weeks).
However, some people have a strong reaction to using Artificial Intelligence (AI) to create art. I tend to agree with this sentiment because what it usually produces is a mishmash of other people's art and has the feel of a Tupperware container. However, through my own testing and research, I've discovered that AI can actually enable the human creative process to produce something surprisingly beautiful, 'on point' and unique.
This makes sense because the words used are yours, arranged into song form; the music style is your choice (AI can replicate this); and the curation process is guided by me or someone on the team, a human, who can listen deeply and relate. I think if you allow yourself to experience the process, you will find it deeply personal and very human—something AI can only assist with, not lead. And to be brutally honest, without AI assistance, this service could not exist.
Siri, a talented clown and musical theatre performer in Norway, faced a daunting task: creating a personalised 80th birthday song for her father, Vidar, on the very morning of his birthday. Despite the extreme time crunch and creative block, Siri was determined; she gathered heartfelt anecdotes from Vidar's twin sister and close friends, then collaborated with me to craft lyrics and a musical arrangement inspired by the early Beach Boys. After several iterations, we perfected a Norwegian* version, which Siri performed for her father. Vidar absolutely loved it, with Siri noting he hadn't seemed so enlivened in years—a beautiful testament to the power of a personalised, heartfelt gift to bring immense joy.
I don't speak Norwegian